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How to Tell People You Are Vegan (without making them hate you)

how to tell people you are vegan

You know those smug vegans everyone is always complaining about?  Well, I was one of them.  I was filled with self-righteous indignation that I was superior because of my morals which led me to give up meat and all animal products.  At least I can blame this on youth.  I was 12 when I went vegetarian and 15 when I went vegan, so pretty much everything I did at the time was indignant.

Even if you aren’t the slightest bit smug though, you will still probably be accused of being a smug vegan (or some other similar adjective).  In fact, you might be surprised at just how much wrath you invoke by simply announcing that you are going vegan.

This reaction actually isn’t limited to vegans.  Just think how much society hates people who are on weight-loss diets.

Whenever people see someone else making a conscious effort to change (be it for health, moral, or whatever reasons), they get defensive about their own choices. 

The defensiveness gets particularly bad if the person knows deep down that they should probably also be making similar changes. Instead of taking the steps to change, the person often ends up condemning the other as being smug or self-righteous.

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For people going vegan, this defensive reaction creates an obvious problem.  After all, you will eventually need to tell your friends and family that you don’t eat animal products anymore (unless you never plan to eat in front of them again).  I find it funny that all the advice on how to go vegan recommends joining some local or online vegan group.  It is as though they are preparing you to lose all of your friends!

Going vegan does not mean you have to isolate yourself from all your friends and family.  You will however have to be really carefully about how you lead your new lifestyle so you don’t end up putting people on the defensive or (worse) offensive.

 

Don’t: Be an activist

Trying to force veganism on others isn’t going to get you anywhere.  In fact, it will probably just isolate people who are actually generally interested in veganism and might have made the conversion.  The best activism you can do is to lead by example.

 

Don’t: Judge

It goes without saying that you shouldn’t judge other people for their choice to eat animal products.  If you do, you are just opening up the door for them to judge you.  And I doubt you are perfect!  Judging others will also put them on the offensive.  You’ll end up hearing a lot of stupid and illogical comments like “humans were meant to eat meat” or “what about all the field mice who are killed to grow vegetables?”

 

Don’t: Talk about your diet until asked

Just because you are excited about going vegan, it doesn’t mean you’ve got to shout it off the rooftops.  Wait until the appropriate moment to tell people you are now vegan – like before going to a friend’s for dinner.  Don’t start discussing your reasons why or any other aspects unless the person specifically asks.  Then, only offer information.  Don’t force it. “If you are interested in my reasons for going vegan, I will happily provide you with some articles and links to websites.”

 

Don’t: Get defensive

Yes, there will be some jerks who consider your choice to go veg as a personal affront to their “right” to eat meat.  But most aren’t like this – so don’t instantly get defensive just because someone asks a stupid question like “where do you get protein?”  Instead, stay positive.  Instead of answering the protein question with an angry “you don’t need meat to get protein!” you could instead say “I’ve just discovered tempeh! It is low fat, loaded with protein, and tastes awesome in a burrito.”

 

Don’t: Talk about other people’s diet

You are going to make people hate you if you constantly talk about what they are eating along the lines of “do you know where that burger came from?”  Just say how great your veggie burger is and offer a bite.

 

Do: Keep focus on yourself

When someone asks why you are vegan, we have a tendency to turn it around and speak in terms of “you”:

By going vegan, you will feel a lot more energetic.
By going vegan, you will help save animals and the planet.
By going vegan, you can experience a lot of health benefits.

If you do this, then you are going to get people feeling defensive about their own choices – and defensive people stop being so open minded.  Instead, make sure you always talk about your reasons for going vegan on a personal level.  So, say something along the lines of “Ever since I’ve gone vegan, I’ve felt great and even lost 5 lbs.  And the diet is in line with my moral beliefs for animal rights and the planet.”

 

Do: Be creative with ordering

Going out to eat at restaurants can be challenging as a new vegan.  Instead of ordering obnoxiously by asking a series of questions about the ingredients, just ask what vegan-friendly dishes they have.  Better yet, call the restaurant ahead of time to figure out what your options are. Or, look for dishes which are almost vegan and ask for a substitution: “I’ll have the brick oven calzone with roasted vegetables and extra spinach.  Hold the cheese.”

 

Do: Be specific

Surprisingly, not everyone knows what a vegan is.  Heck, not everyone even knows what an animal product is (some people still think eggs are vegetables!).  So, it is best to be specific.  Like if you have to go to a dinner party, tell the host beforehand that you “do not eat meat, fish, eggs, cheese, butter, or milk”.   Otherwise, you could end up with some surprises on your plate and will be in the awkward position of having to refuse it in front of everyone.

 

Do: Stick with it (even if you slip up)

A lot of vegans slip up (either accidentally or because of failures of willpower).  Don’t let these slipups destroy your attempt to go vegan!  If you thought people hated you as a vegan, just wait until you are an ex-vegan.  No one likes a quitter!

 

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the first annoying vegan by John C Bullas BSc MSc PhD MCIHT MIAT FGS
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Author Diane Vukovic

Diane Vukovic is a vegan mom, health nut, and kitchen diva. When she's not deducing veggie nutritional facts, she's probably dancing crazily with her daughter or traveling somewhere in Europe.

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